Snowy Day

The guys, Erin, and I packed her van and drove off to the sledding hill, yesterday.  With screams of delight, unstoppable giggles, and maybe just a little bit of boyhood mischief, we had an unforgettable day.  I'm not sure if my favorite part was Erin rolling down the hill or perhaps, Landon walking up the hill murmuring, "My Precious," while hiding the boot he stole from the little man at the bottom of the hill.  Gotta love boys!!!!

The Big Boys taking care of Willow.

Look carefully.... Erin is rolling, rolling, rolling.....

Landon hauling down the hill.

The True Meaning of Christmas

People are absolutely amazing.  As much as this struggle has been hard to watch, from my perspective, and hard to live from Erin and Claire's perspective.... it is so astounding to see the good in people.

Duncan and Bennett, high school students and athletes coached by Erin's brother, Alex, started a fundraising campaign with some friends and fellow runners.  Duncan has shared that the money was donated from other cross country families, other students, as well as families from the school that do not know Coach Broughton.  Additionally, members of a local running club donated funds, too.  They received donations from people as young as 10 to senior citizens.  Awesome!  The guys collected numerous donations ranging from $5 to $1000 by one generous family.  AMAZING!  Duncan and Bennett presented Alex with gift cards to Amazon.com and Walmart, as well as a very substantial check.  I love seeing kids take the initiative to give back.  Alex, you must mean so much to these boys!!  Duncan, Bennett, and crew, thank you for looking out for your awesome coach.  This is the very essence of the Christmas spirit.  Your Spokane friends are so extremely proud of you!!

I called Erin yesterday and asked if I could come crash her house.  (Truthfully, I had some good news for her and a bottle of wine I was given, with the caveat I drink it with Erin and Claire.)  Luckily, Erin said to come on over, but that she needed a couple of minutes.  She said within seconds of hanging up the phone with me, the doorbell rang.  She wasn't quite dressed yet and went running to the door, throwing on mismatched sweats and a marines knit cap.  Erin's guests were a local boy scout troop that "adopted" Erin, Claire, and the family for Christmas.  The boys delivered presents and a meal.  That is so incredibly awesome!  I just wish I had been a little faster and could have seen it, too.

Yesterday, a friend of mine, Ginger, texted me to say she wanted to pick up a ham for the family for Christmas.  What a fabulous idea!!!  Well, she called the "Honey Baked Ham" company near North Town Mall in Spokane, to order a ham.  In talking with the owner, she shared a bit about Erin and Claire's story.  The owner, Shawna, said that she rarely watches television, but caught the interview on KXLY a couple of weeks ago.  She was moved by the story and is donating an entire Christmas dinner from her company to Erin and family, complete with side dishes and all the fixings.  AWESOME!!!!!  It is heartwarming to see companies going above and beyond to help support friends in the community.... or in this case, to support complete strangers.  Thank you so much to Shawna and Jeff with Honey Baked Ham.  Your dinner will make their Christmas extra special and a whole lot easier to prepare.  Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!

So.... how are they?  Claire is really doing well - at least from my naive perspective.  We shared some wine and laughs yesterday.  I was surprised to see her up and about, just like normal.  She has found that staying on top of the pain med regimen really is the key, as well as being gentle with her arm during this healing process.  With the help of Erin and Terry, she is making it work.  She also was planning on braving the stores and doing a little Christmas shopping yesterday.  Unbelievable.  I guess I never really thought about the recovery time for a mastectomy, but I never would have imagined she would be up and at 'em this quickly.  I know she is tired and sore, to say the least, but I am encouraged by how active she is.

Erin is in very good spirits, actually acting a touch goofier than me at times, shocking, I know!!!  She was truly a sight yesterday, in red, sock monkey pajama pants, a bright pink sweatshirt, a blue-green nightgown hanging out of the sweatshirt, and alternating hats between the marines cap and a penguin hat.  Although, my favorite was the platinum blond wig, pushed waaaaaayyyyy back on her head, leaving a monk-like forehead.  Awesome.  And, the best news of all, wine finally tastes good to Erin again.  Whew.  I was worried our friendship wouldn't make it through that little speed bump.

A Great Day!

Miraculously, Claire came home from the hospital last night.  She is resting in her own bed, with her family doting on her.  She has had some soreness, but Erin is making sure she keeps on top of her pain med regimen.

Erin and David took the boys out today for a little lunch, and perhaps to give Claire and Terry some blissful quiet.  My guys and I joined them for a crazy fun time at Chuck E. Cheese.  The boys scampered through the restaurant with coins weighing down their pockets and tickets flowing behind them.  And, when the tokens were spent, they ran about playing some type of imaginary fighting game, all while dodging each other and hiding behind machines.  Their silliness was absolutely contagious.

Brief Claire Update

Erin shared with me that Claire is out of surgery.  The doctor said it went well.  Terry shared that there were no surprises during the surgery.  Definitely a good sign!!!  I will post more as I hear it.  Thank you for your thoughts and prayers.

Claire's Turn for Surgery

Some of the time, I covet the strength, stamina, and tenacity of this amazing family.  Most of the time, I feel really guilty to be blessed with great health while others have so much on their plates .... this experience really does give me pause.  All of the time, I know how extremely lucky I am to be friends with such fabulous people like Claire, Erin, and their families.

Stamina and endurance will be gracing this family as they take another big step (or leap!!!!) this week.  Claire's surgeon felt moving up her mastectomy would be the best plan.  Claire has had a minor, but annoying, complication since her lymphnodectomy last month, that could eventually lead to infection.  Unfortunately, chemo compromises the immune system and leaves Claire at a disadvantaged state to battle that possibility.  So, Claire's surgery (single mastectomy) is scheduled for this Wednesday, December 19th, first thing in the morning.  At this point, she is scheduled to spend one night in Sacred Heart Hospital.

When we knew that she would definitely be facing a mastectomy, I tried to think of the positives.  I made *genius* comments about how Claire has a great husband who will love her no matter what the surgeon has to take from her, and that she won't be having any more babies, so nursing isn't an issue.  I was truly trying to find the silver lining to a cloud that really should just be allowed to be a bitter, dark, ugly cloud.  Claire said to me, "Well, this is the first body part I have ever had to say goodbye to."  To me, that statement was so, so powerful.  I needed that perspective.

This absolutely sucks and will not be easy.  And, regardless of her love and support system, Claire is so absolutely allowed to feel this loss and mourn it.  If I had to walk in her shoes, I know I would share those sentiments.  Thank you Claire, for showing me that side.  It used to be in our society, that we were allowed to mourn.  Widows and widowers wore black ribbons on their arms for a year following the loss of their beloved spouse, trauma was met with love, support and understanding, etc.  Those things still happen in some ways, but all too often, geniuses (like me) just want to make everyone feel better, to take away the pain, and to get back to just being happy.

Claire, you are allowed to mourn the loss of your breast.  You are allowed to be angry.  You are allowed to grieve.  You are the one who will face the scars each and every day.  I am angry, too.  I am at a loss as to why this has happened.  Truly there is no reasonable explanation that I can fathom.  The silver lining for your family and friends is that YOU will still be here and that YOU are not defined by your breast.  I think I will just have to tie a black ribbon around my boob....  wait.... that won't work.  Maybe just a black bow on my bra each day?  I don't know.  Just know that you are loved and that yes, this completely sucks but is so worth it, to save YOU.

Terry has returned to Spokane and will be holding Claire's hand through this process.  Thank you to the many families and friends in Ajo who took great care of him.  Terry has shared with me only a portion of all the amazing things that have happened in your awesome community.  I know he appreciates the sale, the caring conversations, the meals, everything!!  Claire is so grateful that while he wasn't by her side, he was feeling the love and support of so many in Ajo.  I will try to update you via this blog as soon as I know anything.  Thank you for keeping Terry and Claire in your thoughts and prayers this week.

Happy Birthday, Gavin!!!!

Gavin will be turning 12 on the last day of the Mayan Calendar - talk about a bummer of a present!  He has joked and laughed about that prediction.  This weekend, he had a Mine Craft birthday party at his home.  I'm sure he celebrated early because of the imminent doom to our world.  Gavin enjoyed time with friends, video games, a crazy pillow fight, pizza, and the most original "cake" I have ever seen.  Erin has always amazed me with her incredible creativity.  She made a Mine Craft cake out of brownies and green rice krispie treats.  My boys said it looked just like a "creeper," some type of a monster on the video game.  I'm sure Mine Craft fans will know exactly what that means.

Happy Birthday, Gavin!!!  I hope you enjoyed every minute of it.  AND, thank you for not singing "Gangnam Style" too many times while your mom's irritable friend with a slight aversion to that song was around.  Next year, teenager!!!!

Home Again!!!

Landon made it home today!  I'm sure he and his weary parents are appreciating some time to rest away from the hospital.... that family has spent more time at Sacred Heart in the last five months than any family should in a lifetime!!!  In any case, I bet they are all so glad Landy Lou is home and doing well.  Thanks for the continued prayers and positive thoughts.

Christmas Wish Pictures

It feels a little strange to post the happiness from yesterday while Landon is in the hospital.  In any case, it helps to see the joy and excitement that surrounded our Christmas Wish experience yesterday.  Thank you so much to 92.9, the Dave, Ken and Molly morning show, KXLY, Yokes, Avista, Sharleen, the elves, Down River Grill, the list goes on..... Thank you to all of you!  OH, and a huge, huge, HUGE, thank you to our photographer, Jennifer Holm.  As always, great pictures!

Waiting for the big surprise!

Taking it all in, watching her boys and my boys enjoying the surprises.

Part of the Christmas Wish crew and friends.

An amazing moment.....

Erin chatting with Dave on the radio.

Erin and Claire.  Amazing, amazing women.

Landon Update

I don't have a lot of information, but I have heard that Landon is out of surgery and doing well.  He is at Sacred Heart, with both parents by his side.  Landon is a strong, sensational boy and will no doubt sail through his recovery.  Thank you for the continued thoughts and prayers for this sweet family.

Landy Lou

Well, life just keeps going, one way or another.  Tomorrow will be another big day on this family's roller coaster ride.  Landon is scheduled for heart surgery.  When he was just a few weeks old, sweet baby Landon was admitted to the Pediatric Intensive Care Unit for his heart.  While there, he received an internal pacemaker.  His situation was scary and grim.  His family was told to "enjoy your baby."  I'm not sure exactly what that statement meant, but Erin remembers it was made in response to her questions about what to expect in the future.  Landon turned six years old last month and is doing extraordinarily well.  Tomorrow, in many ways, is a celebration.  Landon made it. Landon's little heart is doing better than ever anticipated and his pacemaker is coming out.  He will be in Sacred Heart hospital overnight, but should come home on Thursday.  I will post updates as I hear them.  Please keep sweet Landy Lou in your thoughts and prayers tomorrow, along with his brave, strong family.  Just like his mama and his grandma, Landon is a fighter.

Christmas Wish!!!!!

Today was incredible, absolutely, positively incredible.  Year after year, one of our local radio stations, 92.9 ZZU, grants fabulous holiday wishes to families who have come upon hard times.  Through a letter, I shared Erin and Claire's unbelievable story and nominated them to receive one of the generous Christmas Wish deliveries.  About two weeks ago, the call came sharing that their wish would be granted.  It took some creativity, a touch of conspiracy, and a whole lot of lying to actually surprise this family, especially savvy Erin.  With many friends in tow, and Nik staged at the house getting the kids ready, we followed the KXLY camera crew and our head elf to Erin's door.  The looks on their faces will be in my heart forever.  Erin thought I was bringing a high school journalism student by to interview her... um.... not quite.  I can only imagine her surprise.  It was so awesome.  ZZU Christmas Wish blessed them with many wonderful surprises as so many friends and my own family watched on.  The sight of Erin's boys snuggled on the couch with my own little men, digging through the gifts cannot even be described.  That moment truly was what Christmas should be about - crazily happy children, enjoying a perfect, cancer-free morning.  Erin's living room positively overflowed with pure holiday joy that could be felt by all.  Thank you so much to Christmas Wish, ZZU, all of their sponsors, and KXLY News.  After the surprise, the news crew stayed and interviewed Claire, who literally woke up in the middle of the mayhem, and Erin.  I'm excited to see their fighting spirit shine through in their segment.  

Once all of the elves and crew were on their merry way, we broke open some champagne and shared mimosas and donuts.  What an incredible, unbelievable morning.  I feel so, so fortunate to share in all of this with my wonderful friends.  Ladies, I just love you and am glad today was a bright spot in this difficult journey.

The recording of Erin and Claire's surprise can be found here: Christmas Wish.  Their wish is #6.  Enjoy!!!!  Pictures to follow soon!

Great Weekend

This weekend, I had the pleasure of taking Erin and Claire to the Davenport Hotel to see the trees on display for Christmas Tree Elegance.  We had a wonderful time!!!  Between the banter, the really tall college basketball players breezing by us, the seriously short people in the lounge.... we had a ball.  Erin and I giggled loudly every time Claire ran off to leave her ticket in the raffle box for the next tree with a larger cash prize.  It was so, so fun.

After the trees, we spent some time in the glamorous Peacock Lounge.  It was so amazing to visit, share some yummy food, and sip beverages.  Claire made a comment like, "Who knew a simple day out of the house could feel so liberating?"  What a fabulous reminder!  So much to be thankful for.

Last night, the three of us enjoyed a movie, a yummy dinner.... if I do say so myself, and some time to chat.  I loved it.  These two ladies are so incredible.  I have no health updates, but will post as soon as I am able.  While we were relaxing, our four boys were totally crazy.  There *might* have been a touch of squabbling, but mostly we enjoyed their silly giggles and their goofy conversations.  Little boys are simply amazing.

Do you know why he wears a hat???

Tonight, I was lucky enough to visit with Erin and Claire for a little bit.  Thank you, Somer, for another delicious meal.  This time, I stayed for dinner, chatted, and ate way too much, YUM!!!!  Somer is a mom of one of my sweet first graders and has never met Erin or Claire.  This is the fourth meal she has sent in the three months I have known her.  Thank you!!!  These gestures, Somer's and those of so many others, make us all smile and remember the genuine goodness in people.  In some ways, that means even more than the food and care packages.  Thank you!!!!

Erin and Claire were doing ok.  This round of chemo has not been too friendly with Claire.  She and Erin both said today was better than yesterday, but still a tiring, hard day.  Claire's natural spunk and good humor were there, but slightly hidden under a small mountain of fatigue.  Hopefully, as she distances herself from last Monday's chemo treatment, she will grow in strength and energy.  If you would like to encourage sweet Claire, cards can be sent to Claire Bistline, 3118 W Grace, Spokane WA 99205.  Thank you for continuing to keep this loving mom and grandma in your thoughts and prayers.

Erin doesn't have a lot of answers about her own test results.  She has a really awesome oncologist who has traveled out of town to attend a conference about Erin and Claire's specific form of cancer.  I pray she comes back with the right tools to gain ground and defeat their cancer.  Erin will be meeting with her to discuss treatment options as soon as she returns.  If I hear anything, I will update right away.

The part I never realized about these journeys is that normal day to day "life" must go on.  Homework, sleepovers, sports, dinner, laundry, it doesn't stop for cancer.  I guess I never considered that side, especially for a busy single mom of two boys.  During this Christmas season, Erin's guys have been visited by a very naughty "Elf on the Shelf."  While I was there, Landon finally found the evasive elf, Calvin, hiding in the sugar canister.  As Landon was peeking at him, he said, "Hey Kim, I know why he wears a hat, do you?"  I quickly retorted with, "Well, I think he might be a cone head."  Landon replied, "NO, he is an ELF not a CONEHEAD!  He wears a hat because he is a bald elf....."  ....just like Landon's sweet mama and grandma.  As much as life keeps going on day in and day out, cancer threads its way into daily life, too.  While his comment made me giggle and made me proud of his open mind, it also slammed the reality of his life in my face.  He and his brother are so unbelievably brave.  I am incredibly proud of both of them.  They are the light that is shining on their mom and grandma through all of this.  Thank you for continuing to keep this entire unstoppable family in your thoughts and prayers. 

aaaaaaaaggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhh

Results.....  Erin found out from her oncologist that the tumor that was removed last week still had active cancer cells.  Damn it!!!  What that means is that the chemo did not phase her cancer at all.  Her tumor did not shrink and was resistant to the chemo treatments.  Damn it!!!!  Whatever Plan B is, Erin will definitely face it head on and fight this stupid cancer beast.  I have very few answers, but I pray that Erin, Claire, and their family will sail through this holiday season with their eyes set on many more happy times to come. Please keep Erin in your thoughts and prayers.  She is simply amazing.  Hopefully, the months ahead will be kind and gentle to our dear friend and her mama.  Damn it, damn it, damn it.

With Love, from Ajo

Claire called me today with awesome, awesome news.  She and Terry received a very excited call from their friends in Ajo, AZ last night.  I have never been to Ajo, but Claire said it is a fairly isolated smaller community, with a population of less than 5,000 people.  She and Terry have been spending the cold months there since 1997.  In that time, they have made many close friends, some from the start, and some more recently.  The Ajo community rallied together and scheduled a yard and vegetable sale this weekend.  The Community Support Agriculture Group donated the profits from the sales of their home grown vegetables.  Yard sale items were donated prior to the sale and were sold to benefit Claire.  From what I have heard, the extent of the donated items was tremendous, especially for a smaller community.  Claire and Terry were so excited to hear the conference call from so many of their dearly beloved friends in Ajo.  I believe that call just might have brought some tears of joy.  I could hear the excitement in Claire's voice as she shared the energy from her friends.  I'm also hearing rumblings of more benefit activities in that neck of the woods.  I am so, so excited.  I often worry that as we rally to support this sweet family on the northern end, that I often focus on Erin and overlook Claire.  Due to her kind, caring, and humble demeanor, I know Claire would never complain for a second about my focus on her amazing daughter.  In any case, I am so glad that she has a chance to feel the love and support from her Ajo family.  To all her Ajo friends and family, thank you for organizing this event, sharing your excitement, and sending your energy to sweet Claire.  She needed that!!!

Erin is doing well post-surgery.  She has some soreness at the incision site and is a touch tired.  On the whole, she is faring very, very well.  Of course, we are all on pins and needles for the pathology reports.  Those should come in this week.  Hopefully, the results will show the cancer cells within the mass are dead.  I will update as soon as I know.  Claire is scheduled for her third round of chemo tomorrow - half way!!! I'm hoping that she handles this treatment well and the aftermath is tolerable.  As a mom, I cannot imagine how hard it must be for her to take care of herself  and watch her daughter, too.  It is really so unreal.  Hang in there ladies!!!  I've said this whole community is behind you, but I was so wrong, at least two whole communities (and probably more) are sending you so much love, prayers, and support.  It is a testament to you both that so many people love you, support you, and would do absolutely anything to help out during this journey.  You both are simply amazing.

WAHOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Erin was able to come home tonight!  I am so happy for her!!!!  I spent some time with her, her family, and friends.  Erin is doing really well.  She was laughing and positive.  We had a fantastic time telling stories, joking, and sipping wine.  (Surprise, I know!)  In any case, she was dealing well with her surgical pain and was happy to be home.  I am so incredibly proud of her strength, her braveness, her spirit, and her unending drive to conquer this cancer beast.  Erin's pathology results should be in by Tuesday.  Please pray for NO active cancer cells.  I will post the results as soon as I can.

Erin and Claire,
We love you and cannot tell you how much this whole community is pulling for you. I know I have said it before, but cancer picked the wrong family to mess with!  You will seriously kick some cancer butt!!!  I can't wait for the big post cancer party and perhaps a Hawaiian vacation???  You will be victorious.    I just know it.
LOVE YOU!!!!
Kim and Jim

Out of Surgery

Erin made it through the surgery with flying colors.  Her doctor said it went well and that she is happy with how Erin handled things.  The pathology reports should be back next week  Praying for dead cancer cells!!  At this time, Erin is recovering in the hospital and will be monitored today.  It has not been determined if she will go home tonight or tomorrow.  I will update as I know more.

Change of Plans

Recently, Erin had some tests and scans to monitor the effectiveness of her chemotherapy treatments.  Unfortunately, her scans revealed that the tumor is the same size as before chemo.  Her doctor has shared that this could mean a couple of different things.  It could mean that the cancer cells within the mass are dead and the tumor just didn't shrink.  That would be ideal.  If that is the case, she would continue on with her treatment plan as is.  It could also mean that the chemo is not working and a different form of treatment needs to be investigated.  To know for certain, the lump needs to be removed and tested.  Yesterday, Erin went in for that surgery.  Typically, this is an outpatient procedure and Erin was scheduled as such.  Due to her heart condition, her team has decided the safest place to perform the surgery is in the hospital, probably as an inpatient.  They were unable to get Erin on the hospital schedule yesterday, bumping her to Friday instead.  Erin's surgery will be tomorrow morning at Sacred Heart. It is likely she will spend Friday night in the hospital as a precautionary measure.  Please send your prayers and positive thoughts in her direction as she bravely faces another battle in this journey.  Hopefully, the pathology reports will reveal dead cancer cells. 

I have only had brief opportunities to visit with Claire lately, but she seems to be handling things well.  Her next bout of chemo will be next week.  She is enjoying having Terry here.  I know the two and half months of separation was difficult for both of them.  While he has been here, they have enjoyed some great visits with friends and family.  Please keep her in your thoughts and prayers, for her own journey and as a devoted mom caring for her incredible daughter.

A Fabulous Weekend!!!

A few weeks ago, Erin found a deal for a night at the Ramada by the Spokane Airport.  This hotel has an indoor pool and a tall water slide - heaven to any boy!!!  She booked the night for her and her boys and told me about how excited she was to get the guys out of the house for a little down time.  Like a true friend, I invited my family along and booked the room across the hall.  Erin's childhood buddy and my favorite new chum, Wenona, came along, too, spending the night in the room next door.  It was such a blast.  The boys were crazy little men, while the grown-ups relaxed and visited.  We spent some time poolside and even ventured in the water with our gaggle of guys.  So incredibly fun!!  Of course, we endured a few jokes about my husband, Jim, and his harem, who supplied him with a flock of sons.  Hysterical.  The whole hotel adventure was incredibly fun, and something I hope to repeat soon.....  although, next time I hope to get two coats of nail polish on my toes while sipping wine poolside.  Everybody needs a Wenona!!

Four Bathing Beauties

Hot Tub Time

Landon educating Wenona on the finer points of his video game.

Who knew Spiderman stays at the Ramada when away from the bat cave???

Gamers

Thankful

I am so thankful for all of the acts of generosity and caring that have been extended to our friends, Erin and Claire.  On this day of thanks, I am thankful for all of the time, money, cards, food, care packages, phone calls, every single act of kindness that has made its way to Erin and Claire.  I am amazed and humbled by the generosity of our community and the character of so many incredible individuals, families, and businesses.  I cannot believe how people have rallied to support this family.  Thank you.  Thank you for following their journey.  Thank you for the prayers.  Thank you for the well wishes.  Thank you for the meals.  Thank you for every ounce of your support!!  While my heart is burdened with shards of their struggle, it is also overwhelmed with gratitude for the selfless acts and kindness of so many.  It really does take a whole village to fight cancer and this village is rallying behind two amazing women.
From my heart, I sincerely thank all of you,
Kim

Landon's Big Birthday!!!

Yesterday, Landon celebrated his sixth birthday!  His super fun party was at Jump and Party in Spokane.  Landon and his friends had an exhausting, sweaty, amazing time.  The day was filled with love, birthday cheer, goodies, and tons of giggles.  Erin and Claire were our beautiful hostesses who also enjoyed a little jumpy time.  Thank you to Jennifer Holm for being our official party photographer.  Enjoy!!!

Christmas Ideas

I was contacted by some sweet friends of Erin's about a Christmas List.  What a fantastic idea!!!  Of course, our little Miss is quite reluctant to share her needs.  She told me that people have done so much already and wouldn't provide me a list.  So, how about gift cards?  I know Erin enjoys shopping for her boys and could go get the kids exactly what they need.  There is a Walmart near her home and a Target close by. We do have a Toys R Us in Spokane as well.  I know from my own little family that groceries are getting spendy, too.  The nearest grocery store to Erin and Claire is Safeway, but there are Albertsons, Fred Meyer, and other grocery stores.  Erin also shops on-line, so Amazon cards would work well.  The other thing that might be nice is restaurant gift cards. Then, when the family is up to it, they can go out to dinner.  I'm not sure of Erin or Claire's favorite restaurants, but I know they like all kinds of food, with Asian food being a staple for them.  Claire has some unique dietary needs, but definitely enjoyed the Mongolian Grill where she could put exactly what she wanted in her bowl.

Thank you for thinking of this dear family at this special time of year.  The awesome side of this horrible journey is watching the generosity and good in people unfold.  It really is inspiring and incredible.  The other day, I was talking with Erin and Claire and they were discussing getting a turkey for Thanksgiving.  Within ten minutes, no exaggeration, my cell phone rang.  It was my sister-in-law telling me that another family at the Taekwondo school Gavin attends wanted to bring a Thanksgiving meal to a deserving family.  She wanted to know if Erin and Claire would be interested.  How strange is that?  It was honestly kind of eerie.  In any case, I heard from Erin that a 20 pound bird showed up from that family yesterday.  That is awesome.  I know their home will be filled with family and that turkey will definitely be enjoyed.  Thank you!!!

Destruction and Boobs

I'm sure that living with cancer has got to be frustrating, to say the least.  I'm only living it through Erin and Claire, and I know my emotions run the gamut.  Well, the other day, Erin sent me a text saying she just wanted to break stuff.  I totally get that.  With struggles I have personally had in the past, I have broken things and found it very primal and cathartic.  So.....  I came home that day and started scouring the cupboards for things we could break.  A while back, my hubby was laid off in a yucky way from a company he had enjoyed for eleven years.  He has moved on and is much better for it, but I am still terribly bitter about how it all went down.  Sure did find the two mugs with that company's logo on them!!!  I also found some other glassware that I never use.  I grabbed some bags, took a test run of my idea, and headed off to Erin's house.  We wrapped the glasses and mugs in brown paper lunch sacks and then double wrapped them in grocery bags, because while destruction is fun, clean up is not my style.  We smashed the hell out of those little bundles on her patio.  It was awesome.  Primal, cathartic, and simply amazing.

Like a huge dork, I even had a short soundtrack for our destructive feat.  I found Melissa Etheridge's version of Janis Joplin's hit, "Piece of My Heart."  Melissa Etheridge performed it on the Grammys with Joss Stone after her battle with breast cancer.  It was her first performance since her treatment.  I remember my hubby and I being in awe of her strength, her beautiful baldness, and her energy. Awesome, awesome story and song.  I'm sharing a link to that moment, as it still gives me chills:  Grammys performance.  Enjoy!!! 

So Erin and I listened to her awesome, determined voice blaring from my phone and just started smashing.  My favorite part was that Erin and I were laughing so hard, we were completely testing the outer limits of our bladders.  So hysterical and a night I will never, ever forget.  I have another new destructive idea and can't wait to test it out with Erin!!!

On a different note, my six year old asked me why every time he hears about "breast cancer" someone says "boobs."  I asked him if he knew what breasts were.  The sweet little darlin' said yes and pointed at my chest while saying, "those things."  Ummmm........ yep.  I asked him if he knew what boobs were.  Again he said yes and showed me he knew exactly what they were.  Then he said, "Mom, the proper name for them is breasts.  So, why do people say boobs when they are talking about cancer?  Shouldn't they say breasts?  That would be the right way."  Wow....  who would have guessed a six year old had that in him.  I told him that sometimes we say boobs or boobies to kind of lighten the mood because breast cancer is a very, very serious thing.  He was happy with that and ran off to wreak havoc on our cats or something.  Love it.

Thank you for your continued thoughts and prayers for Erin and Claire.  If you would like to donate a meal, please check their meal calendar.  Thanksgiving dinner has already been generously covered by a fellow taekwondo family.  Thank you to them!!!  Also, Erin and Claire's fund is at Spokane Teachers Credit Union under the "Erin Broughton Hughes Benefit Fund."  I know many people have made donations to the account in the names of family or friends as gifts.  This is a great idea for Christmas presents for loved ones!!!!  Thanks!!!

Guest Writer

Recently, I was contacted by a man, Cameron, who shared with me his hard journey through cancer as a caregiver for his wife.  He asked me to share this story as it is poignant to the road the family and friends of people with cancer travel.  All of our personal stories are unique with regard to Erin and Claire, but many of us will identify with feelings, thoughts, situations, etc, with Cameron, our guest writer.  The following is his family's story.

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How I Survived My Wife's Cancer Diagnosis

As her caregiver, my wife has said that she cannot imagine how I felt after her mesothelioma diagnosis. Its been difficult to share some of my experiences with her, but I hope to use this forum to share more.

Our first child, Lily, was born three months prior to my wife’s diagnosis. We went from experiencing a time of great joy to a time of immense fear and uncertainty after her diagnosis. When she was diagnosed, I looked into my wife’s eyes as she was crying, and I wondered, “How are we ever going to get through this?”

In the midst of her diagnosis, I was on the verge of a mental breakdown myself, but I managed to snap out of it when the doctors asked me questions about her future medical care. This day marked the first of countless days that I would feel overwhelmed. Despite my feelings, I had to make difficult decisions with my wife.

When she was diagnosed, my range of emotions included anger, rage and fear. I did not know how to control my feelings of anger. Many times, my communication style included needless expletives. It took a while, but I learned to control my emotions. I had to learn because I needed to be strong for my wife and daughter. They depended on me to be strong. In every situation, I had to be a source of optimism and stability. This was much easier said than done.

After the diagnosis, I often had long “to-do” list. The lists consisted of work action items, travel arrangements and other events. I was overwhelmed, but I learned how to prioritize and select the most important tasks first. During this time, I had to learn to accept help from others when I was overwhelmed to avoid feelings of despair. I am not sure how I would have cared for my wife without the help of these people. Many days, I was still overwhelmed even with the help.

For a two-month period following Heather’s surgery, I struggled immensely in her absence. Heather and my daughter were in South Dakota recovering with her family. She was also preparing for her next phase of mesothelioma treatment, which included chemotherapy and radiation. I was only able to see them once during this time period.

One Friday, I drove through a snowstorm for 11 hours to visit my wife and daughter. I slept for a few hours in the car waiting for the storm to clear. When I arrived Saturday, I was exhausted, but I spent the rest of Saturday visiting with my family and some time on Sunday morning before starting my journey back home.

I do not have regrets about making the decision to be apart from my family, or any other decisions I made during this time. I was simply happy that my wife was still around so that we could make these choices about her care. During this time, I learned some valuable lessons. I learned to accept help from others, and to be grateful for the opportunity to make the choices. This gave me comfort during a time of uncertainty. Through all of our struggles, Heather is still here and still healthy over six years later.  I hope that our story can be a source of hope and help to those currently battling cancer.

Sale Recap and Shirt Order Info

I am trying to wrap my head around this post, but I am truly a huge tangle of emotions. There is no possibility that words can do these last few days justice.  It was all so amazing.

Erin's friends devoted so much time to her.  Jennifer Walker and her family bent over backwards to make our sale possible.  Thank you, Jennifer.  This was all your dream.  It was incredibly inspiring to watch this huge event unfold.  Dyanne, Su, and Laurie worked endlessly at the pay station and straightening the sale items.  My dear friend, Bonnie, folded clothes all day long.  Her husband brought us a big "Joe to Go" from Starbucks at just the right time.  My own student, Dylan, and his friend, Mason, sold vintage candy and made over $90 for the fund.  I cannot tell you how proud that makes me.  The compassion from these two young men truly comes from their amazing families. Thank you so much!!! Wenona, Erin's childhood friend, helped all day long, staying for the extensive clean-up, even though she had to drive back to Priest River.  Another student of mine, Natalie, came with her mom and sister.  This family, who has never met Erin or Claire, has already sent three meals to them and came to the sale.  Thank you!!!  My neighbors, from my beloved Alice Avenue, brought me coffee, shopped the sale, bought raffle tickets, and warmed my heart with their caring.  One of these sweet neighbors even left a small care package on my porch, reminding me to take care of me.  So, so, so thoughtful and kind.  My student teacher came with her daughters, bringing another coffee (thank you, Wenona was in a desperate need!) and taking advantage of some awesome deals.  My work friends came to shop and support our cause.  Erin's current work friends, and coworkers from long ago stopped by.  My folks loaned me their truck on Friday for donation pick-up and clean-up yesterday, as well as saving my behind when I forgot to get the change for the cash boxes.  Thank goodness their bank was open until 6:00 on Friday!  My sweet friends, Bob and Tracy, took our kids all afternoon, made donations to the sale, and came shopping.  Roz and her mom helped us get the shirt orders going.  Erin, Claire, and David came to the sale, spent a long time thanking people, chatting, and even posed for a picture with our sweet Junky Munkey candy vendors.  Your presence was the inspiration our tired bodies needed to keep going.  I hope you were able to step back and soak in the love that radiated from our day.  I wish I remembered all the vendors that were there, but sadly, my brain is too tired.  Just know we so appreciate you.  I am extremely thankful to the businesses and friends who sent items for the raffle and silent auction.  We made quite a bit of money just by selling raffle tickets.  Thank you!!!  And, finally, a huge heaping of gratitude to my sweet husband.  He walked in the door with a pizza just when Wenona, Jennifer, and I were needing some more fuel.  He has gone above and beyond watching our boys so I could help out the Walker family with this sale.  He has been my rock and I am so grateful.  Love you, Jimmy!!!

As for Erin and Claire, I had the immense pleasure of showing them all the moolah from our sale.  I walked in the door with a pink (of course!) bag, full of cash and checks.  I handed it to Claire, told her that it was for them.  She felt the rolls of quarters stretching the bottom of the bag and the bundle of bills inside, all while having no idea of the bag's contents.  I wish I had a video of her face when she peeked.  That look made it all worthwhile.  Claire was obviously in shock by the generosity that money represented.  When Erin had a chance to take a gander, she audibly gasped, and maybe even murmured an expletive or two at the size of the sale profits.  Thank you to EVERYONE who made that possible.  I know it wasn't easy, but we all appreciate every act of generosity, no matter the size.

As we visited, we were watching Lawrence Welk. (David had the remote!!!  ha!!!)  Claire joked about our huge Saturday night, watching Lawrence Welk with the folks.  I wouldn't trade that for anything.  David made sure I saw L.W. tap dancing in his Fred Astaire tribute show.  Who has ever seen him without a baton in hand, let alone dancing???  We watched some of the Osmond family's guest performance and marveled at the huge hair on the ladies.  David told Claire and Erin they should try out that style.  And, true to my smart ass nature, I made sure to give him hell for telling his bald and balding gals how to do their hair.  How insensitive!!!  David, thank you for letting me tease you and thank you for teasing me in return.  LOVE IT.  We also listened to Erin share the childhood stories of how she terrorized her little brother.  She has been sneaky and secretive from the very beginning.  Alex, it is a wonder you are a successful, functioning adult.  Sorry my friend was so rough on you!!!

As we look forward, past the sale, Roz and I would like to invite you to order a BooBees shirt to benefit Erin and Claire.  Orders will be taken for both t-shirts and hooded sweatshirts.  Please e-mail Roz at rozalindk01@gmail.com.  T-shirts are $20 and hoodies are $35.  Please add $5 for orders that need shipping.  Shirts come in youth sizes S-L and adult sizes S-4XL.  The last day to order shirts is this Thursday, November 15th.  Thanks!!!!

A Little Verklempt

Our benefit sale for Erin and Claire was a HUGE success!!!  We had a great turn out, lots of help, donations, everything.  My sincere thanks to Jennifer Walker and family.  This whole event was Jennifer's idea and I know she put so much time, energy, blood, sweat, and tears into today's fundraiser.  I am so glad it was so successful.  At times, Jennifer and I both talked about how overwhelmed we were by the generosity of others.  I cannot count how many times Jennifer came up to me, with tears in her eyes, sharing the latest amazing story of  a generous donation.  It was unbelievable.  There are way too many stories to list, but today really did highlight the good in humanity.  I'd like to thank everyone involved, from the friends who volunteered to help, the awesome vendors who shared their finds, my Alice Avenue neighbors who represented our awesome block quite well, the numerous educators who came to support my friends, everyone.  I cannot name them all.... my brain is tired and my eyes are drooping.... just know that we are so, so, so grateful for your time, help, generosity, and positive enthusiasm.  I'm hoping to post more sale details soon, but definitely need to go rest my weary body.  Jennifer, you should be so proud.  This was an amazing, amazing day. 

Overwhelmed

Jennifer Walker, her family, friends, Nik, and I....and so many others.... worked really hard today to get the Grange ready for business tomorrow.  My sincere thanks goes to Jennifer and her family who have devoted much of this week to Erin and Claire's sale.  I'm sure they all must be just about to drop.  The Grange is bursting at the seams with awesome donations.  There is so much for sale.  I saw clothes, shoes, furniture, a plethora of toys, books, wine glasses, kitchen goods, picture frames, even a Flobee!!!  Please come and search for some amazing deals.  We will be pulling a raffle ticket every hour to pick a prize from our basket table.  We have baskets from Starbucks, Mary Kay, Bath and Body Works, wine stuff, dog stuff, hair products, and much more.  You might be one of our lucky winners!!!  Although, if you win the wine basket, I  will follow you through the parking lot, hoping to steal the yummy bottle of Barrister Merlot.  There will also be vendors in the basement selling their awesome crafts, at great deals.  One of my very own first graders will be selling vintage candy, including the candy cigarettes we all remember and love.  Please show Junky Munkey your love!! Also, starting at 2:00 p.m., we will have a bag sale - all items you can fit in a garbage bag will be $5.00.  Furniture will be half-price starting at 2:00 as well.  Come find some great deals!!!

We also could use a few more hands to help out at the sale.  If you would like to be put to work, just show up and find Jennifer Walker or me and we will point you in the right direction.  Any amount of time you can spare is greatly appreciated.  Thank you!

Nik and I got to sneak away and have lunch with Erin, Claire, and Landon.  They were doing well and enjoyed a good meal with us.  Erin and Claire were upbeat and positive and amazed me with their strength and resilience.  Minus the hats and a twitching eye or two, it was like any other day.  We all stuffed ourselves, shared some great stories, listened to Landon's hysterical banter, and left happy and full.

I know this round of chemo has been harder on Erin.  She is working through some irritating neuropathy, nausea, and frequent changes in internal temperature.  Claire has been helping her greatly and has been strong this week, even as her hair begins to litter the floor.  Please keep our dear friends in your thoughts and prayers.  Claire's chemo week is right around the corner.  Both ladies will need the strength of many to keep pushing through this fight.

Alright......  I hope to see so many of you tomorrow!  Remember to bring cash or checks for payment.  Please park legally and respectfully.  The Grange does have a decent sized parking lot, but overflow might need to use surrounding neighborhood roads.  Please be considerate of our host neighbors.  Thank you!!!

Help Needed and Shirt Order

Jennifer Walker will be at the Grange today from 10:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m.  She will be accepting donations and would also love some muscle.  If you have time and strength, please consider helping Jennifer and crew move donations from the trailer to the Grange hall. 

Donations will be accepted today and tomorrow from 10:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m.  Thank you for your generosity.  The sale will be Saturday from 9:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m.  All large items will be half price from 2:00 - 4:00.

Also, Roz and I will be taking t-shirt orders on Saturday.  BooBees shirts will be $20 and must be paid before the order can be placed.  Shirts are unisex and come in youth sizes XS-L and adult sizes S-4XL.  Thanks!!

Reminders

Donations will be accepted this evening from 5:00 pm to 7:00 pm at the Bigelow Gulch Grange - 7001 E Bigelow Gulch Rd.  Anything will be accepted.  Donations this weekend included everything from clothing and toys to furniture and appliances.  Thank you!!

Donations will also be accepted this Thursday and Friday from 10:00 am to 2:00 pm.  These days will be devoted to moving items from the storage trailer to the grange and pricing.  Thank you to the Bigelow Gulch Grange for allowing us this extra time.  And, again, thank you to Mercer Trucking for the storage trailer.

The big tag sale will be this Saturday, at the Bigelow Gulch Grange, from 9:00 am to 4:00 pm.  All of the profits will be deposited to Erin and Claire's benefit account at Spokane Teachers Credit Union.  Please come prepared with checks or cash for your purchases.  Also, all large items (furniture, etc) will be half price the last two hours of the sale.  Thank you for thinking of our sweet friends.

Also, there is limited parking at the grange.  If possible, carpool with friends.  Please be respectful of the residents and businesses in the area and park carefully and legally.  Thanks!  We can't wait to see you!!!

Erin shared with me that Claire is doing ok after herceptin treatment, just tired.  Erin is doing fine after yesterday's chemo, too, but very tired and having trouble sleeping.  Hopefully this bout of insomnia will be short-lived for her.   Thank you for continuing to keep these dear ladies in your thoughts and prayers.  I know they are digging deep for strength and relying on the enthusiasm of others to help weather the storm. 

Besties Forever

One of the very best bosses I ever had was at the mall, years ago.  I was working my way through college and had no idea I was going to be making life long friends.  I truly just thought I would scrape enough together to pay the bills and get myself through teacher school.  A couple of close girlfriends (Jennifer and Kerrie) and I worked for this gal who was always kind, considerate, self-sacrificing, and consistently went over the top to help all of us succeed.  That boss was Erin.  We became friends during our years peddling sunglasses and often spent many after work hours together.  Since that time, the four of us have tried really hard to schedule a handful of girls' nights every year.  With families and children, it has been tricky at best, but somehow we have made it work.  We held each others hands through a handful of boyfriends, 5 weddings, 7 births, 2 divorces, 2 miscarriages, 1 funeral, a smattering of disagreements, and more cocktails than I care to remember.  Often, we have talked about one day being four old ladies still sitting down at a local restaurant for cosmos and girl talk, while wearing our red hats.  

This weekend, Jennifer, Kerrie, and I manned the storage container at the grange on our first donation day.  Honestly, we had a ball.  We reminisced about the good ol' days and gossiped about life right now.  We also squabbled like sisters and poked fun at each other in a way that only truly great friends can do.  Just like when we were 20 somethings, we shared some diet cokes and fries, taking breaks only to help unload another donation.  In my heart it just felt perfect to be with these two amazing women.

After we locked up and headed off, we met Claire and Erin for lunch.  It was absolutely perfect.  We belly laughed when Claire walked in with a big velvet hat Erin had found for her at Value Village, complete with hideous fake roses on it, shared stories from our decades as friends, chuckled at the things our kids have said or asked, and just generally enjoyed being together.

So, what is the purpose to my babbling?  I feel so completely blessed.  It is not often that people make friends as young adults that endure into the real world.  The four of us will support each other through this awful journey, picking up Claire along the way, too.  I absolutely hate that people I love are fighting cancer, but I am so happy to feel the love, support, and "stay-bility" of our little group.  (Yeah.... I said it, stay-bility.... all for you, Miss Jennifer.)  And, even this reluctant hugger is learning how to give a good two armed hug, although I keep hearing, "It really is too bad that it took one of us having cancer to get you to give a good hug."  I must admit, I am getting better at this hugging thing, even if it is weird because I make it weird.... thanks, Kerrie.  It is true, we will be best bitches forever.  Love that and love you all.

As for an update from Cancer-land, Erin is set for round four of chemo tomorrow.  Claire will be doing a herceptin treatment as well.  I know these two have strength that I cannot even fathom, but I'm sure tomorrow will knock them on their buns a little.  Please continue to keep them in your thoughts and prayers.  I am praying for a restful, healing week for both.

When we left the grange yesterday, the semi-trailer was probably about 1/3 of the way full.  Thank you to everyone who stopped by with a donation of items we can sell.  Donations will be accepted on Tuesday night from 5-7 p.m. and on Thursday and Friday from 10:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m. both days.  Thank you for thinking of us!!  The tag sale will be on Saturday, November 10th, from 9:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m.  We can't wait to see you there!

Grange Day!!!

Some friends and I are at the grange today until 2:00. Our "compartment" is actually a whole semi-truck trailer. Thank you so much to Mercer Trucking for donating the trailer and allowing us to hang on to it this week.  We have tons of room. Bring your things!!! 7001 E Bigelow Gulch Road

Halloween Fun

Last night, Erin and I celebrated a perfect Halloween with our sweet little guys.  Our four boys were over the moon excited for tricks or treats!!!  After a quick dinner, we headed out with Nik and the little men.  The weather was perfect - no rain and warm enough for only sweatshirts.  We giggled like mad, conquered the boys' fears of the really scary house down the street, and perhaps the grown-ups helped lighten the boys' heavy candy bags.... just a little.  At one point, my youngest peeked down the street and said, "Mom, there are deer over there."  Our neighborhood is definitely in the city.  We were only a block from a very busy road.  I assumed that he saw a lawn deer or a strange costume in the distance or something.  Nope, the kid had really spied two full grown deer, a doe and a buck.  My family has lived in this neighborhood for 12 years and never seen a single deer.  It was pretty incredible to watch them trot down the pavement and hop over fences with grace and ease.  It made our whole night extra special.

After trick-or-treating, Erin and I spent some time with the boys helping my hubby hand out candy and visiting with some awesome neighbors who stopped by.  It was really a fun, festive, cancer-free evening.  We need more days like that.

Sincere Gratitude

I have often heard that we never really truly know who loves us, or the depth of their compassion, until tragedy strikes.  The people who hold our hands through the storm are the ones who will eternally hold us in their hearts.  My life has been so blessed, but in the few tragedies that have occurred, I have always been humbled by the generosity and compassion of others.  Today, Claire and Erin shared with me so much about the way others have touched their lives and softened the blow that cancer has struck.

Before I begin with our sincere thanks and gratitude, I must make one small plea.  I am a teacher, a mom, a wife, a daughter, a friend, and a bit overloaded lately.  I want to thank so many people and businesses, but I know that I will forget some.  Please extend your understanding and forgiveness when I forget a business or act that has blessed my friends. Please e-mail me at kimleighty@comcast.net to share with me a company that needs to be added to the list.

The following businesses have been instrumental in helping Erin and Claire.
Sincere thank you to:

Great American Construction Company
Jenny's Diner
Pink!
Bliss Hair Studio
Nodland Wine Cellars
Paint in My Hair
Mercer Trucking (storage compartment donation)
Serena Thompson and the Farm Chicks
The Bigelow Gulch Grange
Spokane Rainmaker
Nichole Mischke and KHQ television
Pacific Company Sportswear
Cancer Care Northwest
Cancer Patient Care
Sidebar and Grill
Cashmere Skin and Body
North Spokane Women's Health
Spokane Area Volleyball Referee Association
White Cross Pharmacy in Priest River
Robert Gayda with Bubbleland Laundry

Along with the many companies that have supported our friends, so many individuals and families have helped them through the past few months.  There are way too many people to name individually, but please know we are grateful for everything.  Erin and Claire have received numerous checks, substantial donations to the fund, cards, care packages, meals, babysitting (thanks Kate and Dan!!!), e-mails, calls, and much, much more.  We are all sincerely grateful for your outpouring of support and love.  Every bit of it has helped lift these two amazing women.  It is often said that it takes a village to raise a child.  I think it takes a whole damn continent to fight the evils of cancer.  So, thank you for reaching out to these two incredible women.

As we are following the theme of gratitude, I feel compelled to share a few stories.  First, I must say thank you to my work family at Prairie View Elementary where I teach.  So many friends at Prairie View, who have never met Erin or Claire, have brought meals, left blank checks in my mailbox for the fund, ordered t-shirts, and shared a hug or prayer with me.  The outpouring of love from my Prairie View family includes coworkers, families of my students, and PTO friends.  I am so humbled by your love and support.  One of my coworkers had asked me what the best way to support Erin was.  Unfortunately, that e-mail got lost in the shuffle.  I am trying so hard to keep my family and classroom afloat, while stretching my talents as a blog writer and sharing a few "two-armed" hugs with Erin and Claire.  That friend, showed up in my classroom after school today with a generous check for Erin.  She said Erin could use that money however she wanted.  I cashed it on my way home, drove to Erin's and handed her the money.  It felt incredible to share that with her and know that people all over Spokane and all over the country are reaching out to my sweet friends, even if they don't know them.

Shortly after that donation, another friend of mine asked me to go to her house to pick up some things for the tag sale.  She graciously donated a wine basket for the raffle, another couple bottles for my sanity (thank you!!!!) and a bottle for me to share with Erin and Claire, and was trying to give me more!!!  I cannot tell you how much that gift meant to all of us. Tonight, we sipped that amazing wine and brainstormed about all the miraculous ways people have shared compassion.  Thank you for looking out for all of us and holding my friends, their family, and I in your thoughts and prayers.

Erin and Claire have some great ideas for their fund.  Of course, medical bills are at the top of the list, but in addition to that, they will be using the money for kid stuff for Gavin and Landon - both of their birthdays are coming and Christmas is right around the corner, yoga classes they plan to take together, and some acupuncture they would like to try.  All of these are amazing things.  Thank you for helping to make that possible.

One last note of thanks from me specifically..... thank you for the personal e-mails, calls, wine, and cards to me.  I write this blog because I love Erin and Claire and because I truly enjoy writing.  I am so glad that their loved ones can peek on here for updates while these two beautiful ladies focus on healing.  I know beyond a shadow of a doubt, that if the shoe was on the other foot, Erin would be doing all of this and more for me.  Please, hug your loved ones, appreciate each day, and keep sending a prayer or two to my sweet friends.  Thank you for looking out for all of us.  Tragedy really does highlight the best in humanity. Thank you.
With gratitude and humility,
Kim

Doing Well!!!

UGH, I haven't seen Claire or Erin all week!  What a busy time of year for this frazzled teacher!  In any case, I have heard Claire is handling the aftermath of chemo very well.  She has been very tired, but otherwise ok.  Claire said she is experiencing no nausea, just some exhaustion, and life is better than expected.  Whew!  I pray for these gals constantly and hope things continue on a good path.  As far as I know, there is no chemo this week.  Erin's next round should be the following week and Claire the week after that.  Please continue to keep these strong, incredible women in your thoughts and prayers.

Some dear friends of Erin and I will be manning the storage compartment at the Grange next Saturday from 10-2.  Any donations will be accepted for the tag sale.  Thanks!!!

An Interview and A Fool!

This past weekend, Erin and Claire sat down with Nichole Mischke from KHQ News in Spokane.  I am so proud of these strong women for sharing their unbelievable story.  Without question, their promotion of breast cancer awareness will be saving lives.  That is just one of the many good things that has come from this horrible journey.  Thank you Erin and Claire for having the courage and strength to share your story.  You are truly saving lives.  Please peek at their interview at http://www.khq.com/category/195686/video-landing-page?clipId=7873174&autostart=true  Thanks!!!

(****Small profanity warning..... those sensitive to my trucker mouth should stop reading now.****)

Now..... on to the awesome part of this story.  My only preface to this part is that self-deprecation is one of my strongest and most valued traits.... so on we go...

On Saturday, I picked up the flowers and balloons from Jenny's Diner to deliver to Erin and family after the fundraiser.  It was really fun playing Santa Claus!!  I stumbled up to the door loaded down with a bright pink balloon bouquet fighting to be free in the gusting wind, a vase of flowers that was slipping a little in my hand, and a dessert my cousin had sent for the family precariously balanced in my other hand.  Truly, I should have taken a couple of trips, especially with the wind pelting the balloons into my face and clouding my vision.  I banged on the door with my foot and was let in by Claire.

Erin was visiting with a friend and was dressed up.  Typically, I see Erin and her mom in sweats or jeans and never with make up on.  Both looked perfect.  I peeked over at Erin, who is stunningly beautiful and said, "Wow, you are a hot piece of ass in that wig."  Really appropriate, right?  But, she was absolutely gorgeous and needed to know.  Of course, she needed to hear it in a way that would be fitting coming from her foul mouthed friend.

As Erin was chattering with her friend, I was being extremely mouthy with Claire.  We were sharing some stories and I was educating her on some finer profanity she hadn't learned yet.  Truly, profanity that not even I can repeat on here.  (Sorry, my own folks read this blog....  I can't explain this one to them, too!)  In any case, Erin and her friend kept talking and eventually I started noticing that along with the nice attire and make-up, the house was completely spotless.  Erin's friend seemed to have a lot of curious questions, too, more than most of her visitors.  At that point, I thought maybe the friend was recently diagnosed and just wanted to know what to expect.  Yep, real genius here, not cluing in at all!!!  Then, the friend made a comment about having enough for a story and closed the open lap top on the ottoman that I hadn't even noticed.  Oh dear LORD!  I just called my friend, you know... the bald one with cancer, a "hot piece of ass" and shared some of the dirtiest profanity I know with her mom.... all while being recorded!!!  I turned a million shades of bright red and instantly started stammering.  I am so glad those parts of the interview didn't end up on the news!!!  I must say, I felt like a huge arse, but I would totally make a fool out of myself again just to hear that tumultuous laughter from our gals.  I'm pretty sure we all giggled so hard we cried.  And, thank you, Nichole, for not including that in your fantastic story!  I truly loved watching your coverage and am so glad you got a chance to meet these courageous women.  For the rest of you, truly, peek at the interview and just try to disagree with my comment.  Erin really was one hot piece of ass!!!

P.S. Our dear friend Roz (the t-shirt coordinator) had surgery yesterday.  If you ordered shirts that need shipping, please extend your patience.  Hopefully, those orders will be shipped next week.  Thanks so much for your understanding.

Claire Chemo Day and More

Today was Claire's first time facing chemo.  I am so proud of her.  I know that deep in her soul, Claire would rather try anything else BUT chemotherapy.  Her oncologist shared with her that trying other, more homeopathic methods of cancer treatment could possibly waste her time in facing this horrible cancer monster.  I know it was so hard for Claire, but the words, "This is your one chance to fight," hit deep in her mom and grandma heart.  Without question, Claire faced chemo for her kids and grandkids.  So, so proud of her. 

By all accounts, Claire's day went well.... or as well as six hours of IV meds can go!!!  She spent her chemo day with Erin, David, and her sister, Diana.  I'm glad she had such loving family to hold her up during this emotional and exhausting first day.  Spending her day with them and kicking her sister's buns at cribbage must have made this day better than she would have expected.  Hang in there, Claire.  We love you and will hold your hand through all of this!!!

Erin found out some interesting news.  She received her genetic testing results.  Surprisingly, Erin does not carry the gene, meaning that her cancer is not genetic.  Random.  At this point, I really don't understand it and I am not sure how that might change her treatment plans, but will post as I hear more.  Hopefully, this is good news.

I feel so lucky to be Erin's friend and am beginning to consider Claire to be my second mother.  On so many levels, I appreciate both of them.  Today, I appreciated being able to see how much others care and love these awesome ladies.  I made a deposit into Erin and Claire's benefit account and was shocked to see that it has doubled in the last couple of weeks.  Thank you all so much!  The money will definitely come in handy for this sweet family as they continue to fight this horrid illness.  Thank you for the fundraisers, shirt orders, donations, and prayers.  These two women are seriously going to kick some cancer butt.....

The Shirts are Here!!

The shirts are here!!!  They are absolutely perfect!!  (AND pretty darling on my friend's little gal!!!)  Thank you to Jeff Valley at Pacific Company Sportswear for designing and printing these shirts for us.  Jeff generously donated these shirts to us at cost, and threw in his time and labor free of charge.  The benefit fund for Erin and Claire is growing by the minute with the sale of these awesome shirts!  Please keep his company in mind if ever in need of custom shirts.  www.pacificcompany.net (487-4189)  Thank you Jeff and Pacific Company Sportswear!!!

Roz and I sorted through the orders on Friday night.  As we dove through the boxes, the shirts were literally hot off the presses.  It was pretty incredible.  Once we had them sorted, we took the family's shirts to Erin's house.  Within minutes her awesome dad had his on....  LOVE IT, especially with jammie pants.

Thank you to PINK! and Jenny's Diner

My apologies to the shop, PINK!.  I forgot to post that they are donating a portion of their profits as well.  PINK! is located at 154 S Madison.  They are open 10-4 Wednesday through Saturday.  PINK! sells antiques, furniture, art, and more.  Although I haven't been there in person, everything I am finding on-line shows this business to be a fun eclectic mix of unique items.  I definitely will be adding it to my list of places I must check out.  Thank you to this wonderful store for supporting our friend and my apologies for not posting sooner.

Thank you to Jenny's Diner for the special fundraiser today.  Erin, her dad, her friend Ward, and I shared a delicious breakfast this morning.  I would highly recommend any breakfast with their delicious, crispy hash browns.  YUM!!!  Although, Ward's bacon waffle looked pretty darn amazing, as well.  Thank you Colleen and crew for all of your hard work.  We had a great time and ate like kings.

Eventful Monday for Mom and Daughter

Erin had her third round of chemo yesterday.  It isn't quite as easy this time as the second round.  Somehow, she and I both were struggling with insomnia at 2:00 a.m. last night and randomly started texting each other.  She was up feeling nauseous and exhausted.  I just couldn't fall back to sleep.  Ironic and a little spooky.  Erin said the chemo procedure itself went fine, but this time she is feeling shaky and nauseous.  I'm hoping that the next few days are better than today...and that we both sleep through the night.  Erin has a huge desire to keep things real with the blog and share all sides of her journey.  Her father sent me this picture from the chemo room.  So, so proud of my beautiful friend.

Claire had an eventful day as well.  While her daughter was in chemo, Claire was scheduled for surgery.  She had her port surgically implanted and had sentinel node removal surgery.  The same doctor who performed the similar surgery on Erin, did Claire's surgery.  Claire handled it well and is experiencing no pain thus far.  Thank goodness!!!  She is in good hands with her sisters at Erin's home.

So, through all the crud and trials, Erin and Claire amaze me with their positive outlook and spunky personalities.  Recently, the three of us measured our heads so Alex could deliver hats from his school.  (By the way.... thanks, Alex!!!  Same colors as my school and our initials are PV as well.  LOVE IT!!)  Anyway, we discovered that Erin has a pin head, Claire has a fat head, and.... well... my head is just perfect..... says me, of course!  So, I kept teasing them, Pinhead, Fathead, and Perfect.  Well, Claire is absolutely tiny, except for her head.  She eats well and really is a slim gal.  And, truthfully, you'd never look at her and even consider her head to be large.  Yesterday, her doctor had to use a child's port for her because her frame is so little.   Today, Erin and her aunties have been teasing Miss Claire about her melon and her teeny body.  I'm so glad they can find the humor in these things.  Perhaps that is what I admire most about them!  We all have to laugh sometimes.

Speaking of laughing, Erin sent me a text telling me she "candled" her mom's ears this morning.  HUH???  I told her I had no idea what the heck that meant, but I was fairly certain I wouldn't want her to do it to me.  Well, she cleaned out her mom's ears with hot wax - some naturopathic thing.  AND, now Claire can hear much better.  Those funny ladies.... chemo and surgery one day, hot wax in the ears the next.  I can only imagine what tomorrow will bring!!

On another random note, I found new boobs for Erin and for Claire.  What do you think?  I think they are just perfect for these two amazing ladies!!!